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Tuesday, September 9, 2014

MISSION POSSIBLE!!!

Is being a woman powerful? Is it Open happiness? Can we make things better? Are we welcomed with jinga lala??? Does any parent say “hei dil maange more ..! after a girl is born? Or Can anyone in the society assure us with “No more tears”????????? These jingles are suitable to advertise the products, however we the “Women” are still branded as weaker sex as a whole. Maha kavi Bharathiyaar has quoted that…birth of a girl can take place only if we have done some good deeds.  Is it an utterly over rated statement? I strongly feel like saying “YES” to it. Because women are crushed at every level by some vultures.

The core issues are, Violence against women, Sexual assault, Maintaining healthy relationships, Economic security and financial literacy, Improving self-esteem, Women leadership and finally Health issues of women! All these are iconic words because it can motivate or create controversy. This is because we don’t have clarity on what we want! Our great country worships women on calendar as goddess and on the other side her obscene pictures are used to promote their products by the same calendar. Whenever there is a mismatch in our objectives the goals are devastated and women are again labelled as delicate darlings!!!

What is the cause? Why do we under estimate ourselves? Why do we still fight for our rights? Do we need to be empowered? If yes….from whom?  I would like to recollect a commonly circulated joke, that a woman is a master piece after god has created men. There is nothing like women should be given power separately, especially when we have to talk about the business acumen.

“Daring the difference” a speech by Christine Lagarde at National Democratic Institute Washington emphasizes on three “L”s for women’s leadership qualities.  It is Learning, Labor and Leadership.
“If we educate a boy we train a boy and if we educate a girl we educate an entire family” This is an old saying and how many girls are getting educated…this is a million dollar answer in our country. Because gender equality is a crucial component in our society. Investment for educating a girl is a big mission in developing countries like India. Women’s education is not a threat…but it is a blessing to enable a structured future to face up the challenges of 21st century. One study suggests that an extra year of primary school contributes 20% of growth in a girl and also an extra year of secondary school boosts up to 25%. Therefore Education for a girl child is inevitable, she has to come out of the shell and explore the world by right opportunities.

The next point is “Labor”. Women represent half of our population however they represent far less than in any social activity openly. Men participate more than women in every corner of the world, this is primarily because of the gender gaps and also the subduing nature of a typical woman who is ready to compromise. “EQUAL PAY FOR EQUAL WORK” a debatable issue as women are tend to get stuck for low pay and low status jobs.  They do a good job in an informal sector too, but the flip side of this exposure is unpaid, unprotected work environment and unappreciated by the employers.  Women have the power of multitasking and it is what they are born with. In spite of this the ability to take decisions are curtailed to a larger extent because she is taught to adjust at a young age to maintain a tranquil atmosphere.  I would like to remind one thing is that…women are the great consumers and contribute a lot for the economic growth. They account for 70% of the global spending, therefore it will be an energetic booster if we can empower more women in the work force.  It is not something to do with policies or government, it is the culture, belief and macho mentality that prevails in our mind which separates to accept women in top notch positions.

My last bullet in the kitty is about leadership. This is to let the women to rise to the top with her innate abilities and strength. The higher the position is, the lower the participation is!!!! Who is responsible for this? What holds a woman? It is not the competence, it is the lack of confidence. Under qualified and unguided men march forward while more qualified and more knowledgeable ones take a back seat out of fear, doubt their own abilities and also because of family.

 Another factor which Indra Nooyi CEO of Pepsico has confessed in the open forum is that, “women cannot have it all, saying you have to cope, because you die with guilt”.  Why do women embrace guilt almost like getting a crown? It is seldom heard from a man that he is guilty for not spending time for the family. Indra was told by her mother that despite being the President of Pepsico, at home she is first the wife, daughter and daughter in law and mother. Therefore if a woman can learn to balance and understand her potentials the world can witness many leaders from this gender. Real change begin from attitudinal change, assertive behavior and a receptive mind set towards women.

It is the time to “disco”!!! What are we waiting for??????? Wake up the Indra Nooyi, Kiran Masumdhar Shaw and Sudha Moorthy in you!!!  You have to know your potential and channelize it at the right place. The more we endure wrong, the more we become strong!!!! And the world may be huge…but we women can make it a better place with our blessed capabilities!!


Saturday, May 17, 2014

SUCCESS IS SWEET....

The best victory our country has witnessed now!!! 
The congress party has to do a thorough post-mortem of their 10 years kingdom. I chose the word kingdom because it is the Gandhi family which was ruling it directly and indirectly. 

As a True responsible citizen of India I am really happy and welcoming the change wholeheartedly. It is a long anticipation from every person who is surviving with full of hopes!!! There are two issues which  evoked my attention.

Congress was not able to communicate to the people in which way Mr. Modi and his party workers have done. Mr. Rahul Gandhi was born with a silver spoon got opportunity to study in one of the best institutions, yet he failed to connect with hearts!!!!!!!!!! A thought provoking and an interesting point is, communication skills coupled with humility are the accepted key factors in today’s scenario.  Youth India feels that they are not getting proper guidance and also “chaltha hei” attitude is creeping in in their mind. So staying connected with people who matter to us is more important than absenting oneself from issues.

And the second learning I would like to share is for the parents. Though it is a sensitive issue, there is a strong message to the parents that they have to give up their aspiration and let the children decide what they want to do. Then we would have seen Mr. Rahul Gandhi in some other field perhaps excelling.
Leave your child to make his fortune like Mr. Modi, smothering will only make your child clueless, protected, indecisive and failure. Lastly…I salute THE INDIAN MOTHER and the unsung HEROINE Mrs. Modi who gifted us an able leader!!!


Jai hind!                                                                                             Jai Namo!!!

Saturday, February 15, 2014


THE "21" from my heart.......



TEEN ACHE......

1.She became my sister bcoz she is not beautiful 

He became my brother bcoz he sounds more dutiful.....
She became my sister as she can't talk romantic 
He became my brother as he talks only about other chicks....
She became my sister as her dressing style is bad 
He became my brother as he is not a tall LAD......
She became my sister as her friend is awesome 
He became my brother as he is not TRUE-SOME....
She became my sister as she is too emotional 
He became my brother as his theory of intimacy is physical.....!!!
She became my sister as i want to put an end 
He became my brother as he can't be my BOY FRIEND......!!!!!!!

2. Words r deeds wen u mean..

Roses r everywhere with full of sheen..!
Closeness it brings and I want to lean..
Thoughts are wonky..! Just not clean......!!

I m your sweet heart..
Truly making me trot..!
I am in your thoughts
What more I want...??

Blissful status to be loved...
Brimming with happiness whenever u showed...!
List of wishes..yet to b told...!!
Trimming the days...with my own code...!!!

Cool breeze in my heart....perhaps u r the reason.
A humming bird in my throat..probably it s your season...
Dancing doll in my shoes awaits fr your tunes..!
'Devilish naughty' in my thoughts affixing all my boons..!
Who wants to shun...?
Where there s a lot of fun...!!
Our love is never done....
No need to ask anyone...!

4. Devil like attitude and demon like words
Dented my heart
Dangling between  desperation and discontent
Made me stay apart..!

Every-time is not cool passing clouds…
Endurance that I need must be in loads..
Endless rain of affection
Is the one thing in demand
Enchanted me with your aura is
What I saw around….!!!

All days are not same
All girls are not dame
Act of displaying love is the best thing…
Affection…that is tied up with a strong string..!!!

5. Adoring love …its my pride
Amplified emotions like a tsunami tide.!
All things are beautiful when you stay beside
Ultimate happiness …my
Heart has become wide..!!!

Drenched by your words
Real antidotes
Like rain drops from windows
Perfect blend of hopes…!!

Love is all won…!!
Like the tested mature wine
The words are in tons
Terrific…my heart says that you are mine!!!

6.Often I believe …yes I am queen
In your heart…in the safe terrain..!
Of ten I felt…yes may be an angel…
Whenever you said it in the beautiful spell…
Always thought I am snow white
Without any dwarfs
But with a heart going  and melting up in the graph…
At times I try to personify to like be Cinderella
Only to party with you and
Dance for oh la la la…!
Came back to mother earth
From my dream…
Life is all about  knowing
nectar and neem

queen, Angel , snow white and Cinderella do have
substance!!!
Qualms from my side is why your heart went to a far
Distance????????

7. Feeling you in my every breath
Feeding my heart as though
It is my last birth!!
Challenging my anxiety with left over guts…
Cushioning my flexibility like a silly nut…!!

When can I see you
Continuous urge…
What all I want to speak to you
Cumulative bulge…
You are my world
Many times I told…
Of course getting old..
Let our love get unfold…!!!

8. To whisper in your ears
Sending the cool breeze
To divulge my emotions
The moments that I want to freeze..!

Sun shine is stopped
Moon does not want to pop…
Clouds are on their strikes
Flowers behave alike…!!
Vulnerable I am
Cant sway away your thoughts….
Volcanic passion
Teach me how to pass…!!

The world looks beautiful
When you stay beside me…
The wonders are incredible
When I think about “thee”

9. Love is more than saying
I love you
Which is why I want to do
All things new..!
Sometimes it is hard to accept
Rather should not expect..
Mind is placid..
Don’t want to talk candid!
Loving you is my favorite feeling
Most of the time I did get healing…
You don't miss me the way I miss you…
Coz u r so special chosen from a few…!!!!

10. Why I am becoming a doll?
Just waiting for your call…
Minutes after minutes looking at the wall…
Time is passing…no sign of you at all….!!!

Why don’t you like my emotions?
Why don’t you accept my devotion?
Why do we have all this commotion?
Let us end it with your positive notions!!!

Open and close are just verbs…
Optimistic I am even if you snub!!
Feelings are something, we should not curb…!
Fragile I am…like a special herb..!!!

11. Love has no fence..
It defies the defense. .
Heart behaves in a typical sense...
One cannot reconcile after this cleanse..!

Mind and heart may not get aligned
 Mountains of hopes is what is designed. .
Blowing wind cannot be covered
 Benevolent affection is completely showered...

Life is colorful 
When we paint it with love
It can become wonderful 
If we truly bow..

Gives you a reason to smile and live..
Drives you crazy for the small worldly pleasure
All it knows only to give
Tried my best... it could never be measured!!!

12. Fragrance of the spring season is on its way..
Darkness of the winter is going to be away!!!
Smell of your love is all spread. ..
Sweetness of it is really splendid...!!!

The roller coaster weather brings mental turbulence. ..
Makes one go incoherent...! 
I treat your thoughts with gentle reverence! 
Cementing it with patience to some of the dent..!!!

Pumped up energy is what the disposition...
Pairing it up with resilience is my decision...!!!
Waking up from a meaningful trance...
To be with you is my plan...!!!

13. This is my girl …A cute nightingale
Curbing my desires for this angel… Clothing my emotions for just being a male..!!!
She is like the first rain drop.. Soft trickle on my stubble
She is the one, I wish to elope, Sincerely, even I started to scribble.....!!!
Radiance in her smile makes me docile Repressed heart mulls over her style.
Its unconditional love I don't want to bail... Interesting talks..when she narrates like a tale..!
Always want to boast as she is very close, Artificial I am not...is what I want to post
Deep in my heart I lost almost.... This dainty woman deserves a beautiful Red Rose.....!!!!

14. YOU MADE ME A POET BY TAKING MY HEART AWAY
EVEN WHILE YAWNING YOUR THOUGHTS ARE ON RELAY!
YOU MAY SMILE AND SAY NOT TO SOUND CLICHE
IT IS MY OPEN HAPPINESS THAT I DON'T WAIT TO DELAY...

I WANT YOUR BEARD TO CLOAK
ALL MY LOVE...MY HANDSOME BLOKE
I WANT YOUR ATTENTION TO GET POKED,
TO BE WITH ME TILL WE GET CHOKED..!!

SOUL SEARCHING PLEASURE WHEN I AM IN YOUR ARMS!
THIS MODERN RADHA LIKES KRISHNA WHO REALLY SHAMS!!!
SOLICITING YOUR PRESENCE TO MAKE ME CALM...
WARM WORDS FOR YOU IN AN UNUSUAL NORM..!!!

ENDLESS JOURNEY IS ALREADY BEGUN..
EMOTIONS ARE SO MANY, I CANT COUNT DOWN!
MY JOTTINGS ARE NOT LIKE THE BORING DRONE....
COZ THE BLENDED HEARTS CANNOT BE SHOWN...!!!!!

65. My love is all over you
Only with words
I decorate it for you to get pleased.
This is what I brew
Churned my emotions
To get rid of my isolation!
Not an angel, who has a magic wand
Not a super woman, who has many powers.
Have loving hands
Hold me..lets be together.
My love has no grammar
Like my poems..
My thoughts have no logic Like idioms
Literature has its own patterns
Your silence is beating my heart like a baton.!
Longing heart wants only a hug..
Love that blossomed is all my luck.
Little by little following u like a pug.
Lamenting lass..scored only a "duck"

16. Pierce my heart with the sound of your love
It lost the power of listening..
Patch up the hole with your utmost care
It needs the magic of redefining. ..!!!

Affection went motionless..
Agony may be the reason is what I guess..
Allow your controlled senses to trespass. ...
Anger is not a tool to make me feel the "loss"!!

Redesign our life with your light of hopes...
Remember that I am the one who is very close...
Recognized the power of love...."is the toast"...
Returning like a bouncing ball which doesn't exhaust.....!!!!

17. Cajoling words ; captured the love knots
Calling my guts to Calibrate the continuous thoughts!

Found you to feel the Love that s lost
Lost me in finding you Which is indeed so fast!

Used many words To know your silence
Crossed my world To feel this benevolence!

I asked you colors You are offering rainbow
I prayed for a soul Personified when I was low!

Is this eternal? May be not...yet its a signal
The status is virtual....still want to dwell...!

18. Complete stranger u were to me..
Confused wander as you could see..
Curious heart just felt free..
Cutely wording it..you are "THE.."

Bumblebees and butterflies will fail in levitating. ...
Bundle of joy your thoughts that give..is simply rejuvenating!
Bloomed love is going fast in accelerating. ...
Bestowing my life to it...like an asset gets accumulating..

Slithering with you like a true member of a team...
Stealthy entries even in my dream... 
Stimulating feeling of a happy "life sentence"
Synergies I get when you are present. ...!

19. Cajoling words
captured the love knots
Calling my guts
to Cal-liberate the cautious dots.!

Found you
to feel the Love that s lost
Lost me in finding you
Which is indeed so fast!

Used many words
To know your silence
Crossed my world
To feel this benevolence!

I asked you colors
You are offering rainbow
I prayed for a soul
Personified when I was low!

Is this eternal?
May be not...yet its a signal
This status is virtual
Yes I know, still want to dwell...!

20. Unsolicited entry into my soul
Ugly carving...a heart with a hole..!
Pondering over your thoughts
Pulling my strengths
on the right path...!!
Where there s a will There s a way
Ventilating heart Doesn't know to sway!!!
Sunset is nt an end But a pause
Every cloud has a silver line is for a cause!!!!
Mustering my courage
with unshaken hopes..
Melancholic claps
for this maverick dope..!

21. For my Valentine..... 

Thousands of poems are possible 
With your one glimpse! 
Showering my words
To pair up the feel of immense!

Eyes, mind and heart are in sync...
Emptiness around me lost its link...!
Embedded my love with you my lion king....
Energies that flow..is krishna's musical zing.!

Surrendered myself with an optimum level of content...
Snuggling moments is what I meant....
Simply speaking my heart out....!!
Silently waiting for a joyous bout...!!! 



Monday, November 4, 2013

YOU ARE REMEMBERED ON EVERY “Diwali”


Diwali is almost a universally known festival now. It is 

overwhelming to see the BBC tv channel showing the

celebrations of highly spirited Indians all over the world. 



But my thoughts train rewinds this particular incident every 


year during this festive mood. It has been more than a


decade ago. However it will bring a good laugh yet…there is

something that I have learnt.

My daughter Akshara was 5 years old then, of course a very


naughty child. In the Navy circle especially in Goa she was

 known as “Discovery Channel”, Because she used to be 

hyper active and inquisitive to know about almost everything.

This behavior of my little angel used to worry me at times as

 I was also clueless like any other young mother.


This incident happened when she was in KG class. She has


 thick, silky and straight hair. I would make two pony tails 

and deck her up with all cute hair clips as I loved to so ( in 

fact even now! )


It was two days prior to Diwali and the kids were making 


Diwali cards as part of their activity. The teacher had kept 

the crayons, sketch pens, glue sticks, glitters, paints and 

also A PAIR OF SCISSORS!!!

This Teacher’s pet has finished her activity early and tried to


 help her. The naive teacher did not realize the big 

trouble..and left the class for some time to do some errands.

 She thought that the kids were engrossed in their activity. 

My super girl got fascinated by the snipping tool. So took 

charge of the scissors and cut her one pony tail first also

 convinced two innocent boys to become her client for a hair

 do. She was generous with their hair and cropped it 

randomly. This all happened in a minute and the boys were

 crying and my daughter was displaying mixed emotions.

The teacher was trembling with fear when she saw the 


plight. Because she knew that she was more responsible

 than my daughter. The next swift action was to make a

 phone call to the parents. And I attended the call as an

 obedient one! She narrated the entire episode with all the 

required emotions. Then she requested me to talk to the

concerned parents as she has given my phone number to 

them.

I did not know how to react; I was worried about my daughter


 and her disarrayed hair!! Husband was coming back from 

sailing after 15 days!!! My son was only a month old.!!!! And 

also one of the boys was a senior Army officer’s son!!!!!!!!! 

Her silly act became a serious issue and I had to handle it 

alone.Before I could decide on anything, I got a call from the

 Army officer’s wife bombarding me for her son’s hair. I really

 felt pity on that tiny boy and I kept saying sorry…what else I

 could do??????

There came blame and a sudden twist in the story that…


these were her words exactly….” You see Mrs. Ayyar! I came

 to know that you are a struggling young mother with two

 kids. You are blessed with a son recently. Therefore I feel 

that you are neglecting your daughter and thus resulted in 

this kind of behavior. Give her more love. I think you have 

baby blues now, this can be solved only by yourself and

 please have positive thoughts!!!”

I felt very bad and depressed after this. Was I neglecting 


her? Why people give advice if someone is not at fault 

directly? Why didn't the school use child proof scissors? 

Why did I agree to save the teacher? Does a mother of two 

young kids have time to think? I was almost in tears looking 

at my cute little boy beside me!!!

However it was a learning experience to me. The learning 


what I got was, When you become a mother your ego is 

crushed, dissected and at last it dies!!! But the other parent 

was mature enough and must have felt that it was not 

anyone’s mistake. Because they never blamed, complained 

or called. I salute them even today for their attitude. I would 

have expressed my apologies to them as well. But they 

became special to us as they underplayed completely. I 

never got a chance to meet them till date. But “THEY” are 

always remembered in my heart!